The stereotype of a man who enjoys visiting a gentlemens club is the real estate or finance guy who, during the day, is a ruthless businessman and, at night, is a vulgar, drooling, haughty money-thrower. Pop culture has presented a variety of representations of the strip club-going male, from 2019’s Hustlers, which depicts entrepreneurial dancers taking advantage of the lusty rich man, to Demi More’s Strip Tease, which showed a rich politician’s fascination with Demi’s stripper character. What is it about strip clubs that draws males, and what do they get out of it, in what is predominantly a male-dominated customer base?
What makes males desire to see naked women dance for cash? The need for company is one of their justifications, a yearning for love and attention. The most frequent driving forces for guys are loneliness and a need for closeness. Companionship, dialogue, curiosity, escapism, insecurity, masculinity, self-esteem, and vulnerability are other factors. Men aren’t just watching the strippers for fun or a sexual release. The regular male customers seek an environment that is distinct from both work and home, female acceptance on a personal and sexual level, the pleasure of a sexualized encounter without the demands of physical performance, and a form of leisure that offers a reasonable amount of both “safety” and “excitement.”
In addition to women, men frequented strip clubs in pursuit of sex and social approval. They enjoy talking with the dancers. Some men consider it a luxury to just engage in conversation with a stunning woman about anything. The opportunity to talk to ladies that dancers provided gave these males a chance to do so.
Meeting with strippers gives many guys an “ego boost,” as they could indulge in them without worrying about being rejected. In a gentlemens club, a patron can fantasize about having sex with a woman without having to engage in any physical act of pleasure for her. He is also forbidden from showing the dancers his bare body, which could serve as another type of protection from criticism. He doesn’t have to look or dress a certain way to get attention from beautiful women.
In this regard, men were frequently given a sense of security by gentlemens clubs, which also occasionally offered just enough risk or unpredictability to be fascinating. When speaking in groups, people have a tendency to be disrespectful toward a dancer’s body while being kind to them one-on-one. Additionally, because bachelor parties dominated many group gatherings, men in groups frequently discussed marriage and relationships with women negatively. However, while speaking alone, these same men frequently declared their love for their wives and great satisfaction with their extramarital affairs. These guys were buying the comfort they needed, so they weren’t at the mercy of the dancers or their own testosterone levels. There is no basis for supposing that males who acted inappropriately in partnerships did so because they frequented strip clubs. Strippers offer more than their naked bodies for sexual pleasure but they offer something that society does not offer everyone else— Unconditional acceptance.